There's a section in Bossypants where Tina Fey talks about photo shoots and the fine line between good Photoshop and bad Photoshop. She says that while Bust Magazine does use it, they use it in a more natural way—to give the impression that you are having your very best day. No trimming thighs, just gifting you, the Tina Fey, your smallest pores and shaved armpits.
I always thought that section was just funny until I thought, "My garsh, isn't that true for everything in life?"
Why is it easier (for me) to default to being "completely honest" and "totally transparent" vs. "I'm kicking arse and yes, I am the type of person who does this or that."? Even if I don't do that thing currently, I have done it and that does qualify me to be "that type" of person. Heck, I can be "that type" even if I haven't. Shouldn't I default to regarding myself as the summary of me at my most excellent? We are allowed (expected) to do that for interviews and dates.
That great thing you or I did three weeks ago is still burning within us to do all over again. The humbling catch is that we are not above the worst version of ourselves either.
Maybe this whole topic is narcissistic or maybe some people's problem is that they already have too much confidence, to put it politely. But maybe they have it right.
What do you think about this self talk? Do you see yourself as the best version of you, or is it more fickle, like how you're feeling this week?