Thoughtfulness. It's something I struggle with.
I don't like how often I'm stuck in my own head, consumed with my schedule, to-do list, upcoming events, etc.
When people ask me how this or that is going, I'm so excited to tell them about me! I eagerly fill them in! Then I so often forget to ask them how THEIR trip to New York was, if they're feeling better or if they found the right new car.
It's not cool, I know.
I have some friends (and a boyfriend) who are much more thoughtful than myself. It's easy for me to label them as extra thoughtful people (because they are). But the problem is that it lets me off the hook.
How do you become better at something that, if you knew how to be better, you already would be better?
I don't exactly know.
But I did come upon a clue last night.
I decided to practice the Prayer of Examen before bed. Ignatian Spirituality outlines it like this:
1. Become aware of God’s presence.
2. Review the day with gratitude.
3. Pay attention to your emotions.
4. Choose one feature of the day and pray from it.
5. Look toward tomorrow.
As I did this I created space to remember the people and conversations throughout the day. I remembered that someone I know has a need that I can fill. She told me about it rather flippantly, and as I listened, I thought to myself, "I'm going to do that!" As soon I dropped her off, the idea left my consciousness. I would have never remembered to revisit my plan had I not revisited my entire day.
It only took a few minutes, but it transformed how I viewed my day and what moments I deemed important.
How do you create space for gratitude and thoughtfulness?